“Please, don’t worry so much. Because in the end, none of us have very long on this Earth. Life is fleeting.”
Robin Williams in Jack
“Please, don’t worry so much. Because in the end, none of us have very long on this Earth. Life is fleeting.”
Robin Williams in Jack
Just saw this update on twitter from former Australian cricketer, Brad Hodge:
@bradhodge007: Sports people have such a high level of expectation placed on them. It is completely unfair to judge their efforts and performance.
Yes you did read that right: apparently, according to Hodge, sports people are not supposed to be judged on their efforts and performance.
By the same logic does that mean that when I go to work every day I shouldn’t be judged on my efforts and performance? After all, like a sports person (professional of course) I have a contract of employment and I get paid for my efforts. Surely the same concept applies?
I would like to hire Hodge to come with me to my next performance review and have him explain why the review should not be about my performance!
All jokes aside: I am sure this is just an off hand comment that Hodge made without properly expressing himself. At least I hope that is the story: otherwise, for a professional sports person himself, this statement might just be the least self aware comment from a sports person this year!
I have written fulsomely on this blog about the position of Ricky Stuart as coach of the Canberra Raiders. In the aftermath of another appalling display be the Raiders yesterday Stuart made the following comments in his press conference:
“Losing two Origin players put us in this rut,” Stuart said.
“We are in a position and they can jump into us and bag us for what it is.
“(But) until I get Origin players in, it’s not going to change and that’s my job. I’ve got to cut to the chase and be fair dinkum.
“Until we grow our own, our fans are going to have to stick solid. I’m getting sick of it and fed-up with give you one-line answers. “As much as it will sound like I’m making excuses, I’m telling it exactly how it is.”
Glossing over the obvious contradiction between Stuart’s alleged need to get Origin players in and the need for the Raiders to “grow our own”, I have to say that this statement from Stuart only goes to enhance my personal call for his removal from the club.
Here are 3 reasons why:
I appreciate Ricky asking me, as a Raiders fan, to “stick solid”. Thank you for asking to do something that I have done since I was 8 years old and first followed the lime green.
Now I ask Ricky Stuart to do something for the fans: leave. I ask this because, by his own statements, he has no faith in our current crop of players and is blaming the current state of affairs on the dismissal of two of the worst behaved players in recent memory from the club. This mindset is NOT what the Canberra Raiders need and for the good of the club Ricky Stuart can not remain in control.
I posted a photo to my twitter account yesterday that attached a photo off Stephen Fry with this quote of his:
“If you know someone who is depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn’t a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather.
Try to understand the blackness, the lethargy, the hopelessness and loneliness they are going through. Be there for them when they come through the other side. It’s hard to be a friend to someone who is depressed, but it is one of the kindest, noblest and best things you will ever do.”
Stephen Fry has absolutely nailed this quote. He is 100% correct.
Reading made me think about my friends, few though they are, and made me realise that I probably have not, and arguably will never be able to, thank them enough for just being my friends. I know, at times I can be difficult to be around but my friends, the true ones, have stuck by me on this journey living with depression.
Simply: thank you for being my friends (you know who you are). If you know someone who is depressed: please follow Mr Fry’s advice. I promise you will not regret it!
I have read with interest the Sunday Mail (there are words I never ever thought I would say on this blog or any other forum) article today about Darius Boyd and his battle with depression (link here: http://www.couriermail.com.au/sport/nrl/darius-boyd-reveals-how-he-hit-rock-bottom-his-21-days-in-rehab-and-the-family-demons-he-is-confronting-to-beat-depression/story-fniabnkr-1227025848132 ). It is a quality article about a long misunderstood rugby league player.
There is one quote that really resonated with me:
“I felt a sense of relief because I just needed to do something. I didn’t want to keep going the way I was going.’’
It is so true that the hardest step to getting diagnosed and treatment for a mental illness is to actually do something about it yourself. The relief that Boyd speaks of and the realisation that he did not want to keep going the way he was going is something I am sure that many sufferers who have gotten help have felt. I know I certainly did.
I salute Darius Boyd for having the insight to realise that he needed help, for getting that help and for having the courage to speak out about his condition.
In a week where we have lost the Elvis of our generation in the form of Robin Williams it is important that sufferers realise that they can seek help and they can succeed after diagnosis. Darius Boyd’s honesty, I hope, will play a small part in that realisation.
Kudos Darius, Kudos!
“There’s three things in this world that you need: Respect for all kinds of life, a nice bowel movement on a regular basis, and a navy blazer.”
Robin Williams in The Fisher King